5 thoughts on “When your colleague asks you for a gift, do you refuse or give it to him?”
Kerry
When a colleague asks for a gift from you, you can deal with it as follows:
first, you have prepared a lot of gifts this time. In this case, if a colleague is close to you and basically meets the conditions for accepting a gift, and it has no bad impact on your work, you can give a gift to your colleague. Everyone is happy
Second, if you don't prepare enough gifts, and your colleagues don't meet the conditions for getting gifts this time, and you can't squeeze out a gift by all means, in this case, you can explain to your colleagues gently and patiently, saying that next time you have conditions, you can leave one for him in advance. In a word, explain politely and try not to leave contradictions and future troubles
[analysis] this seemingly simple problem is not simple, because gift giving is a big learning 1. The adult world is a value exchange based on feelings why he can find you to do things is first based on the feelings of his classmates in those years, and then you are willing to help. Without this friendship, no one would be too lazy to take action. But if it is only based on feelings, it will not go far. Because it's not easy for you to ask the leaders of other departments to sign. It's also emotional. Will others continue to let you overdraw this feeling? So, in the future, you will use others many times. It can't be solved by your own feelings alone. You have to pay. If you don't let the people who do things pay, do you pay for it yourself? The adult world is a material exchange based on feelings. Without material exchange, feelings will not be stable 2. Other people can't give gifts, but you can't give them to many small people who think that when things are done, they have the initiative to give them or not. Watching others politely and symbolically shirk their responsibilities, they went down the slope and thought they could spend less money. In fact, this is a kind of short-sightedness. Other people can't give gifts, but you can't give them away. If you will ask for others next, will you always ask for them with your feelings? This time they'll help you. Next time they see you're not on the road, will they help you? If you won't ask for help in the future, but the circle of adults is not large, are you sure there will be no intersection in other occasions? Unless someone else will use you soon. Otherwise, I must give it to you 3. When giving gifts to others, you must give them a reason that you can't refuse. because Chinese people are embarrassed to directly benefit their feelings because of face problems. When you give a gift, it is inevitable that others will refuse it. At this time, you must give them an impossible reason to refuse. "After so many years of relationship between us, I know you won't take it. It's not for you. Take it to invite others to dinner. You're not accepting it this time because you want to help me. I'm very grateful. But maybe I'll find someone else to do something next. It may be difficult then. If you're a classmate, you must help me with inviting others to dinner?" No one will refuse such a set of words. In this way, the feelings of each other will be safeguarded, and there will be no stink of money in the exchange of interests based on the problem of the subject, it is actually very simple. This person left without giving money, which means that he can't get on the road. In the future, he can find other reasons to refuse. Because these people who have no social value will not have much social ability, and they will not have any value in the future. Therefore, they can gradually cool off. People's time and energy are limited and should be spent on those who are valuable.
It depends if the gift belongs to the company and is used for the activity, tell colleagues to leave one for them when the activity is over if the gift is attached to your purchase, it depends on your mood and your friendship with colleagues. If you can't use the gifts yourself, you can give them. If you need them, you can't give them.
This depends on the specific situation. On the premise of not violating the laws and regulations, you can give it. Otherwise, you can't give it. You can directly say no. if I give it to you, I will be punished. Sorry
It depends on the company's regulations. If you don't violate the regulations of your work, you can give it or make a good friend without a quantitative standard. But if the company has regulations, you can't break the rules. Don't lose more than you gain
When a colleague asks for a gift from you, you can deal with it as follows:
first, you have prepared a lot of gifts this time. In this case, if a colleague is close to you and basically meets the conditions for accepting a gift, and it has no bad impact on your work, you can give a gift to your colleague. Everyone is happy
Second, if you don't prepare enough gifts, and your colleagues don't meet the conditions for getting gifts this time, and you can't squeeze out a gift by all means, in this case, you can explain to your colleagues gently and patiently, saying that next time you have conditions, you can leave one for him in advance. In a word, explain politely and try not to leave contradictions and future troubles
[analysis] this seemingly simple problem is not simple, because gift giving is a big learning
1. The adult world is a value exchange based on feelings
why he can find you to do things is first based on the feelings of his classmates in those years, and then you are willing to help. Without this friendship, no one would be too lazy to take action. But if it is only based on feelings, it will not go far. Because it's not easy for you to ask the leaders of other departments to sign. It's also emotional. Will others continue to let you overdraw this feeling? So, in the future, you will use others many times. It can't be solved by your own feelings alone. You have to pay. If you don't let the people who do things pay, do you pay for it yourself? The adult world is a material exchange based on feelings. Without material exchange, feelings will not be stable
2. Other people can't give gifts, but you can't give them to
many small people who think that when things are done, they have the initiative to give them or not. Watching others politely and symbolically shirk their responsibilities, they went down the slope and thought they could spend less money. In fact, this is a kind of short-sightedness. Other people can't give gifts, but you can't give them away. If you will ask for others next, will you always ask for them with your feelings? This time they'll help you. Next time they see you're not on the road, will they help you? If you won't ask for help in the future, but the circle of adults is not large, are you sure there will be no intersection in other occasions? Unless someone else will use you soon. Otherwise, I must give it to you
3. When giving gifts to others, you must give them a reason that you can't refuse.
because Chinese people are embarrassed to directly benefit their feelings because of face problems. When you give a gift, it is inevitable that others will refuse it. At this time, you must give them an impossible reason to refuse. "After so many years of relationship between us, I know you won't take it. It's not for you. Take it to invite others to dinner. You're not accepting it this time because you want to help me. I'm very grateful. But maybe I'll find someone else to do something next. It may be difficult then. If you're a classmate, you must help me with inviting others to dinner?" No one will refuse such a set of words. In this way, the feelings of each other will be safeguarded, and there will be no stink of money in the exchange of interests
based on the problem of the subject, it is actually very simple. This person left without giving money, which means that he can't get on the road. In the future, he can find other reasons to refuse. Because these people who have no social value will not have much social ability, and they will not have any value in the future. Therefore, they can gradually cool off. People's time and energy are limited and should be spent on those who are valuable.
It depends
if the gift belongs to the company and is used for the activity, tell colleagues to leave one for them when the activity is over
if the gift is attached to your purchase, it depends on your mood and your friendship with colleagues. If you can't use the gifts yourself, you can give them. If you need them, you can't give them.
This depends on the specific situation. On the premise of not violating the laws and regulations, you can give it. Otherwise, you can't give it. You can directly say no. if I give it to you, I will be punished. Sorry
It depends on the company's regulations. If you don't violate the regulations of your work, you can give it or make a good friend without a quantitative standard. But if the company has regulations, you can't break the rules. Don't lose more than you gain